1st April 2018
Asked and answered: your wedding gift list dilemmas
Gift lists can be a tricky subject to tackle in the run-up to a wedding, but we’ve got you covered.
SHOULD DETAILS OF THE GIFT LIST BE SENT OUT WITH THE INVITATIONS?
Traditionally, the gift list would not be sent out with the invitation – interested guests would enquire with the bridal party. As wedding gift lists have become more popular however, etiquette is becoming more permissive and relaxed. If you think it’s easier to let guests know that a gift list has been set up with the invite, it is generally not considered rude to do so.
WHAT IF I DON’T WANT TO SEND IT WITH THE INVITATIONS?
If you’re still uncomfortable with including it with the invite, setting up a wedding site could be a discreet and modern option. Simply direct guests to your site for all the details of your wedding, including your gift list. Consider linking it through a QR code for a truly technologically-advanced touch!
WHAT IF MY GIFT LIST ITEMS ARE DIFFERENT TO THE TRADITIONAL HOUSEHOLD ITEMS?
Many invitations nowadays come with an information sheet which allows the couple to share important details with their guests, including directions to the venue, transport and accommodation options, as well as gift list information. You can provide additional information about your gift list here, or on your wedding site, if you feel it requires a little explanation.
I HAVE ENOUGH STUFF ALREADY - IS IT OK TO ASK FOR MONEY INSTEAD?
Let’s face it – most people who throw a wedding end up feeling a little strapped for cash at the end of it, and cash presents can help pay for a new kitchen or to fund the honeymoon. However, it can be tricky asking guests to give money. One way of getting around this without appearing rude is to let your guests know what the money will be used for, which will make them feel as if they’ve contributed to something specific. The right wording makes all the difference.